Catholic rites for the dead are quite formal and filled with ritualistic prayers and recitations. For those who are not part of this religion, there may be some confusion as to how they should behave when attending these services. There are some general guidelines about how one should dress when going to a funeral mass.
As the second of three services performed for deceased Catholics, the Requiem is a formal affair. The main reason for holding it is not just to honor the one who has passed and to say prayers for their soul, but also to provide support and comfort to all who suffer the grief of loss. In general, it should take approximately ninety minutes for this occasion.
When attending any religious service, one should take particular care to dress in a respectful way. Casual attire such as denim jeans, shorts and sweat suits are most definitely considered inappropriate for such an occasion. The general rule of thumb is to wear conservative clothing that is suitable for church and business.
Suits with ties, or a nice dress pants and shirt combination in neutral tones are appropriate choices for men. Ladies wearing skirts or dresses should opt for articles which sport hemlines at least long enough to keep the knees covered when sitting or standing. Conservative pantsuits are acceptable but bold patterns, bright colors, deep necklines and bare shoulders are not.
This is not a service where men are allowed to wear hats inside the church. The rules are different for women, who are encouraged to place some type of covering over their heads. As most non-Catholics are likely to be unfamiliar with this practice, many parishes and chapels often offer scarves or veils to ladies who do not have one.
The kissing of statues, icons and hands are common in the rituals of this service. To avoid leaving marks, as well as a form of courtesy and respect, women should avoid lipstick that transfers. Observing the rules of modesty and being conservative are keys to knowing how to dress to attend a Catholic funeral mass.
