There was a time when being in mourning meant wearing head to toe black, including gloves, hats and veils. In the modern era, however, the rules as to what is considered acceptable funeral attire have been changed somewhat. Though there are multiple factors that influence one's choice of clothing for the occasion, here are a few basic guidelines.
The traditional dark suit and tie, or little black dress are still safe bets. The styles are now leaning towards the semi-formal. Though the more casual designs are being accepted, they are still expected to be of darker colors such as dark blue and gray.
Men may continue to wear the traditional suit and tie, or they have the option to go with casual slacks paired with a collard shirt and sports coat. Black dress shoes are expected for all options. The primary rule is to keep things conservative, foregoing bold patterns, wearing light colored shirts with dark ties, jackets and pants.
Women are expected to dress conservatively in slacks or office worthy dresses and skirts in dark colors. The outfit should not draw attention because of a high hemline, a low neckline, bare shoulders or flashy patterns and design elements. While heels are acceptable, flats may be more fitting for graveside services.
Children have less strict guidelines to follow. Boys can opt for suits, dress slacks and collared shirts, or even sweater vests while the girls should wear dresses without excessive ruffles or bold, colorful patterns. The youngsters clothing does not have to be black, though it should be of dark or neutral tones with a minimum amount of adornment.
The traditional basics of funeral attire are always a safe guideline though there will be times when this is not the norm. Many religions and cultural groups have their own expectations as to how mourners should dress, and personalized instructions from the deceased may also change the rules. In those situations, the special style requests should be followed as a show of final respects.
