There was a time when being in mourning meant wearing head to toe black, including gloves, hats and veils. In the modern era, however, the rules as to what is considered acceptable funeral attire have been changed somewhat. Though there are multiple factors that influence one's choice of clothing for the occasion, here are a few basic guidelines.
The traditional black suit and simple dress are very much still considered the best choice. The modern version is a semi-formal look that is just slightly more relaxed. The new normal is a bit more casual and comfortable, incorporating the additional accepted colors of gray and dark blue.
Men may continue to wear the traditional suit and tie, or they have the option to go with casual slacks paired with a collard shirt and sports coat. Black dress shoes are expected for all options. The primary rule is to keep things conservative, foregoing bold patterns, wearing light colored shirts with dark ties, jackets and pants.
Women may wear office worthy slacks and dresses in dark colors and conservative styles. The primary rule is not to choose something with a low neckline, high hemline, flashy patterns or bare shoulders because one should not draw attention to herself at these events. Heels are still appropriate though if attending a graveside service, flats may be more comfortable.
Children have less strict guidelines to follow. Boys can opt for suits, dress slacks and collared shirts, or even sweater vests while the girls should wear dresses without excessive ruffles or bold, colorful patterns. The youngsters clothing does not have to be black, though it should be of dark or neutral tones with a minimum amount of adornment.
Though the basics of appropriate funeral attire are a safe guideline, there are exceptions to the rules. Some cultures or religions have specific ways that mourners are expected to dress and those should be followed out of respect. Occasionally the deceased will have left behind special requests as to the type of clothing they would like guests to wear and final wishes always take precedence over tradition.
