At one time, all mourners were expected to wear formal black dress, complete with hats, ties, veils and gloves. Nowadays the rules have become somewhat more relaxed due to the many cultural, religious and personal influences on burial arrangements. For times when no special requests have been made, there are guidelines for appropriate funeral attire.
The traditional dark suit and tie, or little black dress are still safe bets. The styles are now leaning towards the semi-formal. Though the more casual designs are being accepted, they are still expected to be of darker colors such as dark blue and gray.
For men, a full suit and tie ensemble is traditional, though the more casual slacks, sport coat and collared golf shirt combination is also acceptable. The main thing is to keep it conservative and always wear black dress shoes. Pant, jacket and tie colors should remain dark with patterns being subdued or not at all.
Women are expected to dress conservatively in slacks or office worthy dresses and skirts in dark colors. The outfit should not draw attention because of a high hemline, a low neckline, bare shoulders or flashy patterns and design elements. While heels are acceptable, flats may be more fitting for graveside services.
Children's rules are more relaxed. Their clothing is similar to that of the adults in that boys should wear a suit or dress slacks with light colored shirts and ties, dresses for the girls. Though black is not the staple for the young ones, they should stick with darker or neutral hues and the bare minimum of patterns and ruffles.
Though the basics of appropriate funeral attire are a safe guideline, there are exceptions to the rules. Some cultures or religions have specific ways that mourners are expected to dress and those should be followed out of respect. Occasionally the deceased will have left behind special requests as to the type of clothing they would like guests to wear and final wishes always take precedence over tradition.
