At one time, mourning a loved one meant dressing completely in black, including veils, hats and gloves. The rules of expected funeral attire have been altered over the years. The basics will remain the same though there are certain influences and circumstances that will require some occasional adjustments in style.
The traditional dark suit and tie, or little black dress are still safe bets. The styles are now leaning towards the semi-formal. Though the more casual designs are being accepted, they are still expected to be of darker colors such as dark blue and gray.
Men can wear the traditional suit and tie or they may opt for the slightly more casual ensemble of slacks, sport coat or blazer and collared golfing shirt. The general rule is that the look be conservative and always paired with dark dress shoes. Shirts may be light colored but pants, jackets and ties should be dark with little to no pattern print.
Women are expected to dress conservatively in slacks or office worthy dresses and skirts in dark colors. The outfit should not draw attention because of a high hemline, a low neckline, bare shoulders or flashy patterns and design elements. While heels are acceptable, flats may be more fitting for graveside services.
The rules for children are far less rigid. Generally speaking, their style should be an age appropriate version of what adult's clothing with boys in suits or a collared shirt and tie, and girls in dresses. Though the little ones are not expected to wear black, their colors should be dark or neutral with patterns and ruffles kept to a minimum.
The guidelines for acceptable funeral attire are good to fall back on when one is unsure of what to do, but keep in mind there will be times when these rules will not apply. A lot of religious sect and cultural groups have their own mourning garb traditions which guests should observe as a matter of respect. If the deceased specifically requested a particular dress code for their services, honoring their final wishes should take priority over tradition.
