One of the ways you can provide support to a friend who has lost their loved one is by writing them a note to let them know that you are there for them. Writing condolences messages can be quite tricky for most people. However, by keeping in mind a couple of things, you should be able to come up with a proper note.
Start the note by acknowledging the loss that your friend has suffered and how saddened you were by the news. Express your sympathy about their loss. You should refer to the deceased by name. If you knew the deceased, you can make a nice remark about them.
Include some memories of the deceased person. Mention positive memories rather than negative ones. If you had never interacted with the person before but you had had your friend talk fondly about them, refer to the stories your friend shared with you. This will mean a lot to the bereaved to know that their loved one was loved by others.
Be simple and go straight to the point. No need to try and come up with something fancy like a poem or special message. A heartfelt note will be appreciated more. Since the recipient may get many notes during this time, they may not have the time to read through a long message.
End your note by letting the person know you can help them in specific ways in case the need arises. Do not just offer to help without stating how or what you can do. This will increase the chance that the person will take you up on you offer in case they need assistance.
Try and send your note within a reasonable period of time. This can be a within a week or two of their loved one passing on. Instead of typing the letter, write it using pen and paper. Use simple stationary, with a plain background. The messages can be written or tucked in between a sympathy card.
